Jesus Centered Relationships


friends laughingCol 3:12-17 So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; 13 bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you

The Carnegie institute states the 90 percent of all people who fail in their work fail because they can’t get along with people. Something in us makes relationships hard. Our gut instinct, annoyances, and distaste for conflict drive us to avoid, eliminate or control others. Those we deal with most often are often the most challenging. We wish they would change. But we can’t make them. If we force it, we probably aren’t following Jesus in that moment.

Shouldn’t we have better relationship through our relationship with Jesus? Theoretically yes, but we must be intentional about following His lead. Three things become possible when we center our lives on Jesus. I encourage you to pick on as a starting place to start today an experience the difference He makes.

Embrace Jesus’ Heart of Grace Towards Others.

1John 4:11 Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.

Remember God’s grace in your life. God’s forgiveness should empower our forgiveness of others. God’s love should motivate our love for others.

Genuine compassion is a choice that can be made in Christ. When Jesus is the true center & source of our lives, He produces love in us. The Bible pictures a spring of living water flowing out through those who have Jesus’ presence within them. That fountain is His grace.

What if you intentionally embrace one facet of grace at a time. Make your exercise unconditional on their response to your efforts. Just show grace. Especially if they don’t seem to deserve it, appreciate it or even notice it. Jesus will strengthen you as you let His grace flow through.

Embrace Jesus’ Peace Over Your Heart so You Can Pursue it with Others.

Col 3:15 Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts…

Romans 12:18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.

Sin is a peace breaker every time! One toy and two children equals no peace. What about three toys and two children? Does that bring peace? NO! They will both want the same toy! I’m not sure we ever outgrow that without embracing peace in Jesus.

Nurture your personal peace with Jesus. Jesus peace should impact every emotion of the Christ follower’s heart. Philippians 4 teaches us that God’s peace guards our hearts through prayer & obedience.

Pursue peace in your other relationships. How did Jesus Himself treat people? At His arrest & crucifixion, He submitted to the worst abuse during the greatest error in order to provide ultimate peace! WOW! His presence in us should give us hearts that pursue peace as well.

Continually Grow Your Relationships through Jesus’ Truth.

Matt 4:4 But He answered and said, “It is written, ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that proceeds out of the mouth of God.’”

Col 3:16 Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you…

Saturate your life with God’s truth. The Bible is like a treasure map or instruction manual, giving light for our path. We should be like sponges that soak His truth up. God’s word should be like that favorite coach or teacher that we so respected that if they told us to not even sleep on our backs during wrestling season, we took them serious and did it. Seeking God’s truth with others is even better.

If you are tired of empty, draining, conflict dominated, frustrating dysfunctional relationships that drag you down spiritually, then center your life on Jesus. Center your relationship on Jesus and see what happens.

To catch the full lesson go to don’t forget to join us this coming week at 9 or 10:45 (NEW TIMES). My oldest son, David will bring the Bible teaching.